Obey, serve, play: The power of being a submissive in the BDSM world

By Jessica Severin de Martinez,

Published February 23, 2023 at 12:32 PM EST

A photograph of Kim Debron's leather collar with "MJ's Girl" engraved on the tag. Next to it is a gold plate inscribed with "Property of MJ."

1 of 5 — Kim Debron's collar. She has been in a relationship with Master Joe for 18 years.

Kim Debron's collar. She has been in a relationship with Master Joe for 18 years.

Kim Debron

2 of 5 — Kim Debron is a collared slave and writer living in rural Australia. She has been in a relationship with Master Joe for 18 years.

Kim Debron is a collared slave and writer living in rural Australia. She has been in a relationship with Master Joe for 18 years.

3 of 5 — Chastity Slave is a Connecticut-based man in a polyamorous relationship with his master. This is a photo from his experience on a spanking bench at a medically-themed sex party.

Chastity Slave is a Connecticut-based man in a polyamorous relationship with his master. This is a photo from his experience on a spanking bench at a medically-themed sex party.

Chion Wolf

4 of 5 — Chastity Slave is a Connecticut-based man in a polyamorous relationship with his master. This is a photo from his experience on a spanking bench at a medically-themed sex party.

Chastity Slave is a Connecticut-based man in a polyamorous relationship with his master. This is a photo from his experience on a spanking bench at a medically-themed sex party.

Chion Wolf

A sign that welcomes visitors do the dungeon.

5 of 5 — A sign that welcomes visitors to the dungeon.

A sign that welcomes visitors to the dungeon.

Chion Wolf

Last time, we did an episode about dominants in the world of BDSM and kink, and now? It’s time for the submissives to take center-stage.

Learn the difference between “submissive” and “slave”, and four people’s interpretations of what it means to obey, serve, and play.

GUESTS:

Kate Kinsey: Author of How to be a Healthy and Happy Submissive: A Practical Guide to Making Your Fantasies a Reality, and What Submissives Want to Know: Real Questions, Real Answers
Kim Debron: A collared slave and writer living in rural Australia. She has been in a relationship with Master Joe for 18 years. Her fiction books are Souls in Chains, and Broken Links
Chastity Slave: A Connecticut-based man in a polyamorous relationship with his master
Blyss: A Maryland woman who identifies as a slave. She is the author of Single In The Scene: Navigating the Lifestyle Community as a Single Slave

Jessica Severin de Martinez, Khaleel Rahman, Meg Fitzgerald, Meg Dalton, and Catie Talarski contributed to this show, with help from our interns, Elizabeth Van Arnam and Melody Rivera.

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